Why Are Goth Clubs So Cool?
I am a responsible adult. I’m 42, married, and have a rambunctious 6 year old little boy. I work at a stressful job 50 hours a week and don’t get much of a chance to relax and unwind. So once a month I like to get dressed up and go out dancing by myself for a few hours. But I don’t go to just any old dance clubs. I love the Goth clubs! In fact I have been going to Goth Clubs for over 20 years and have no intention of stopping anytime soon.
And I am going to share with you all of the reasons why I love Goth clubs so much and give you a little peek into this scene that is so near and dear to my heart.
How it all started for me…
When I was a kid growing up in Los Angeles in the 80s, my passion was dancing.
I religiously watched shows like Solid Gold, Dance Fever, and American Bandstand and knew I wanted to be a dancer just like them when I grew up.
But around the time that MTV first aired on cable, there was this one little syndicated show called MV3 (kudos to ANYONE who remembers this little gem) featuring the 80’s alternative DJ Richard Blade, that showed teenagers dancing to new wave artists like Flock of Seagulls, Duran Duran, and The Cure.
I thought the dancers wore the coolest clothes and had the craziest hair colors and styles. I was fascinated by the look and the sounds of pure electronic music. I just wanted to be like them soo badly!
But alas I was 8, and much too young to go to clubs. So I was relegated to watching them on TV and dancing in my room in front of the mirror.
Changing with the times…
Flash forward 10 years to 1992. I was 18 and finally old enough to go to some of the 18+ clubs in Hollywood. It was like a dream come true.
At the time I was really into heavy metal, but in the 90’s the metal scene was changing and grunge was starting to make it’s appearance along with a sound I had never heard of before called Industrial Music.
For people who don’t know what Industrial Music is, this is my definition: Angry Techno. Basically it’s heavy electronic music with darker lyrics discussing depressing topics like war and death.
This song was so heavy, and energetic, and so…angry! I was not an angry kid (ok maybe I was a little), but it just woke something inside my soul. From that day on, I have been obsessed with Industrial Music and the dark subculture that goes along with it.
And that is when I discovered Goth clubs.
Just what IS a Goth?
To be totally honest, I don’t really consider myself a True Goth. I certainly don’t fit the stereotype.
In fact, I find most typical Goth music totally boring. I have a lot of respect for goth legends like Siouxsie and the Banshees, The Cure, and Sisters of Mercy, but for the most part, that genre of music just doesn’t really “move” me.
But since so many people don’t know anything about the various Goth subcultures, it’s just easier to classify myself and the clubs I frequent under the general umbrella of “Goth”. If I had to put myself into a category, I consider myself to be more of a “Rivethead.”
There are so many different types of “Goths” (which I will save for another post) but one thing we all have in common is a love of all things dark – dark music, dark movies, and dark topics.
The truth about Goths
- Fact: Goths are not all devil worshippers.
Goths come in all religions. Some of us are Athiests, Agnostic, Christian, Catholic, Jewish, Wiccan, Pagan, etc. And you know what? As long as it is not pushed on us, nobody in the Goth scene really gives a crap.
- Fact: Goths are not always depressed.
That’s right. Many of us are normal well-adjusted people with full-time jobs and families. Even though some of us may like to dress like we are going to a funeral, it’s more about self expression.There is one thing that probably does make us depressed however. Paying bills.
- Fact: Goths do not always wear black.
Black IS a common theme among goths, however some of us like to mix it up with other colors as well. Personally I love dark jewel tones like burgundy and purple. I’ve even worn red from head to toe. But there are goths who wear pink, silver, and even white! Granted, the girl I saw in white was wearing a wedding dress, but it was still white all the same and it was fabulous!
- Fact: Goths are not violent.
Most goths are inherently peaceful. They enjoy art, architecture, literature, and even comedy. Some of us have a fascination with serial killers and death, but I believe it is more of an intellectual curiosity. Most of us would rather just read or watch movies about these topics than actually do anything about it. We get out our aggression on the dance floor!
- Fact: Goth is not always just a phase.
There may be a few goths who “experimented” in high school and grew out of it eventually. For many goths (especially us old-school goths) it is an expression of who we are. I won’t go so far as to sleep in a coffin or decorate my home with black lace and velvet (it’s just not my personal taste), but I do still love my 20 year old big black combat boots and wear these adorable skull hair clips in my burgundy hair every chance I get.
Why I love the Goth Clubs…
They are NOT mainstream.
Most songs you will hear at Goth clubs will never be played on the radio – and that’s how we like it!
You will not hear Top 40 music at a goth club. If you want to dance to this type of music, this is not your place.
Goth clubs are not meat markets.
People don’t typically go to Goth clubs to get laid. I mean, if you are going there for that purpose and happen to get lucky, then congrats. But for the most part, Goth clubs are a fairly safe space where a woman can go out by herself and not worry about getting hit on.
I mean, sure it happens, but other Goths usually understand and respect your space. Although I would NEVER suggest leaving your drink unattended. That is just poor judgement.
We dance alone and respect each other’s personal space.
This is not the type of club where bumping and grinding is appreciated. Yuck! Just don’t stand around on the dance floor. That will piss everyone off.
All religions, races, genders (and trans genders) are welcome.
You can wear whatever you want, and nobody will judge you. In fact, the crazier the better!
Well, unless you come in wearing a cowboy hat and spurs – yeah, you will get funny looks. But even if you do come in wearing a cowboy hat, as long as you are having a good time and not judging anyone else, then YOU will be welcome as well.
Goths share a connection.
Goths can be of any age. In fact, I often meet a lot of people my own age or older at the goth clubs. And I think it’s awesome!
We are the ones who have been going to the clubs for years. We have helped shape the scene into what it is today. And we still share the same love, respect, and appreciation of the music scene that brought us all together.
Why I go to Goth Clubs alone…
It would be cool if my husband was into this type of thing, but he is quite anti-social and this just isn’t his bag. We have been together for 16 years and he trusts me (as he should). So I go alone.
And you know what? It’s absolutely liberating! I don’t have to worry about whether or not my guest is having a good time and I can come and go as I please. I can dance whenever the mood strikes, or I can go outside and mingle with the crowd. I also don’t have to babysit anyone if they get too drunk. What a bummer that would be.
Plus I have made so many friends this way, I usually always run into someone I know. But even if I feel a little awkward and don’t have anyone to talk to, I can just chill out by myself and just enjoy the scenery. And if I don’t want to be bothered, I just pull out my phone and Facebook for a bit. The best part is, nobody looks at me funny. No one cares!
There is just something so mysterious and beautiful being surrounded by a bunch of freaks who all share this common bond. We go there to dress up, dance to obscure music, and escape our daily lives for just a few hours.
I’m still a responsible adult. I’m still a devoted wife and mother. But for 3 hours a month I allow myself the freedom to be myself with my people. And this is why I will never stop going to Goth clubs.
Have you ever been to a Goth Club? What is your opinion of Goths and Goth culture? Leave me a comment and let me know!
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